Pet Peeve Time…..

TGIF everyone!!! As usual the past week has been an amazing roller coaster ride here. Been thinking….well OK thinking too much and it is time to vent. This vent however is BD/SM based and my views on certain things.

First off what is it with all the cock shots on Fetlife? Seriously dudes to most peeps being greeted with an avy of your pickle often times gives you a label of lame or a wanna-be. You feel your pickle is that fucking amazing show it in your pics not as your avy. It is then my choice if I want to go drool all over it and give it some love. As your avy it instantly makes me wonder if you know how to use the tool beyond the basics of a horny teenager.

Next up the use….well I should say over use of the terms Sir and Master. Seriously peeps!!! Just because one is a submissive does not equal calling every Dom you run across Sir or Master. Those are terms of endearment and respect for your actual Master/Dom though I will say using the term Sir for a Top you play with is fitting in my opinion. Oh and for the Doms out there that instantly bark at a submissive for NOT calling you Sir when they just meet you…..get a fucking clue! That behavior just shows you need to pull back on that ego of yours and learn some things about the lifestyle. To a sub who knows it shows you are a wanna-be PERIOD!

Yes it is frequent for me to run into the pickle shot avy Dom that instantly tells me to address him as Sir and how to appropriately capitalize words when addressing him. Can you say instant bye bye?!?! Hell I am currently involved with a Dom and only worry about the capitalizing of words when writing to him in a public forum not in day to day text or emails. Even the terms Master or Sir are not utilized given our current situation.

Batter up time!!! The use of or showing BD/SM pics when you are not in the lifestyle or in that type of relationship. Yep there are a lot of great pics out there however when you use them in a way to state something that is not actually true….well you make yourself look like a fool and are only asking for trouble from the perves trolling the social sites. Many of those pics speaks volumes to those in the lifestyle and are probably giving off a vib that the uninformed have no clue of.

Enough of the rant…..but seriously folks. If the lifestyle is something that attracts you then LEARN before you make yourself look like an idiot. Even for those that are not looking for a D/s or M/s relationship and are kinky beyond the nilla ideas of kinky. Taking the time to read, learn, and ask peeps you trust before you accidentally insult someone is always a good idea.

~Alice King~2012~